Assertiveness And Goals

Take Charge - Assertiveness And Goals
By Paddy Landau

You think you know what you want. But how do you get it? And do
you really want it?
I felt fed up. So, I went to the airport. "Please sell me a
ticket to somewhere lovely," I asked. Yes sir, where
specifically? "Oh, somewhere that I'll feel great and at ease
with myself!" Yes, but I need to know where, specifically! "Uh,
yeah, look, just sell me ticket to somewhere great, OK?" Well,
take this ticket. I've always wanted to go there! "Thanks!"

I ended up touring roller coasters throughout the world. The
seller's idea of a dream holiday, but not mine! You see, if you
don't know precisely what you want, and have goals that match
your values, you won't get what you want!

A study of Yale University graduates from 1953–1973 found that
the 3% that had written goals achieved more in 20 years than
the combined efforts of the other 97%. In other words, they
achieved well over 30 times greater success! Successful people
— from Donald Trump to Anthony Robbins — know their goals and
personal values precisely.

Follow these simple steps to create written goals and start the
journey to your dream life.

Figure out your desires

Take a fresh piece of paper and a sit in a quiet room. List
everything you want in life. List:

What you want to have or own (e.g. a red Ferrari, a leather
sofa, new shoes)
What you want to do (e.g. go on a hot-air balloon ride, lose
weight, learn a new language)
How you want to feel (e.g. confident, tolerant, peaceful)

Go crazy! Let yourself go! Don't worry about making your goals
"realistic" — that comes later.
You may find it helps to think of the following areas of your
life.

Money & finances
Health & fitness

Fun & adventure
Career & work
Friends & family
Physical environment

Romance & relationships
Personal & spiritual growth

Check the ethics

Now, for each goal, ask yourself, "How many of areas of my life
will it improve?" Subtract one for each area it will seriously
damage. For example, a new Ferrari might improve Fun &
adventure and Physical environment, but will seriously damage
Money & finances, so it scores only 1. (If your partner would
leave you over this, subtract another one for Romance &
relationships!)

Look at your scores. Goals with higher scores provide more
value to your life. Goals with lower scores distract you from
finding happiness! How many surprises did you have? Did you
have any negative scores?

Act!

Choose your three most important goals. Word them positively;
as precisely as possible; and in the present as if you've
already achieved them. For example, instead of, "I want to lose
2 stone," write, "I fit size 12 jeans." Instead of, "I don't
want to be shy," write, "I smile warmly and show genuine
interest when meeting new people."

Now, for each goal, write down one thing that you can do this
week to move towards that goal. Write them down on paper. Stick
them on your bathroom mirror, inside your purse or wallet, and
so on.
Revise your goals every week (some goals will change. Let it
happen). You will get "somewhere nice" sooner than you think!

Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and
expecting a different result.— Albert Einstein.

About the Author: Paddy Landau, Hypnotherapist and Life Coach
based in Oxford UK Change Fast — with Hypnotherapy, NLP, EFT
and Life Coaching http://www.landau.ws